Holsters for Women. Stop Telling Me My Choices Suck!

By Suzanne Wiley published on in Concealed Carry

“I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.” – Marilyn Monroe

I generally avoid ranting on any of my blog posts. However, being an Internet blogger means I get to break the rules a little bit. Like being able to start a sentence with like and and. So, I’m going to go ahead and skate on thin ice here, break the rules and write about something that has been chapping my hide lately.

In the past few weeks, I have been reading some men’s opinions on the proper way for women to conceal a gun. Most of the comments—on my personal blog and on other’s Facebook pages—have read something like this:

“How dare you suggest a crappy holster. Stop trying to look cute and carry something functional.”

Now, I know a little something about women. Seeing as I’ve been one for nearly 40 years. And something a lot of us like to do is look and feel pretty—ain’t nothing wrong with that. Our figure fitting tops, black skinny jeans and 5-inch heels not only make us feel confident and hot, but I know you guys appreciate it, too. (You’re welcome, by the way.)

She can carry her holster of choice and still look cute. Photo courtesy of Oleg Volk.

She can carry her holster of choice and still look cute. Photo courtesy of Oleg Volk.

Yes, I know most of our favorite outfits do not lend well to conceal carry and many of us are not willing to sacrifice beauty over function. It is what it is. Get over it! Therefore, please sit in silence as we struggle to find the right holster that not only retains our favorite carry gun, but also is comfortable and works well with our favorite clothes. If we have problems finding just the right holster, have patience. I’m pretty sure you have a drawer full of holsters that do not work either.

Women-Specific Holsters are not Just Gimmicks

Fortunately, there are a myriad of holsters coming into the market meeting the specific needs of women who carry. You may think they look flimsy or unpractical, or that a girl won’t be able to access her firearm. Well… you think wrong. Plenty of women-specific holsters work perfectly. I know. I’ve tried them. Lisa Looper’s Flashbang bra holster allows you to draw your gun in under two seconds. Same with Donna Bickert’s Femme Fatale thigh holster. Both allow me to wear tight-fitting t-shirts and skirts that would make my grandma blush. Neither holster forced me to adapt my preferred way to carry or my outfit. Just because a holster looks ridiculous to you, does not mean it won’t work for us. Quite frankly, unless you grow breasts and hips, you will have no idea what it’s like for us to find a comfortable and functional way to carry.

DeSantis has introduced a new holster that secures a firearm in purses. Though off body carry isn’t ideal, it is the only way some women choose to carry. I’m not going to chastise them for that choice. You shouldn’t either.

When Momma is Happy Everyone is Happy

When you tell us what’s right for us, we start thinking about our fathers. Believe me, the last thing you want your girl to be thinking about while you are wrapping up your date at the shooting range is her daddy. Besides that, put yourself in our shoes. Imagine this: you take your lady home stereo shopping. As you are browsing through the Bose speakers, your lady pipes up, “You want Infinity speakers because they use a ceramic metal matrix diaphragm driver that is both light and rigid, resulting in a highly accurate reproduction of your audio source.”

A bit emasculating, isn’t it?

It can be quite discouraging when all you hear is, “don’t do that,” “stop wearing that” and “No! That’s wrong.” The last thing you should want to do is discourage women from carrying. So unless she asks for help and guidance, let her figure it out. She will eventually find something that works for her. Keep in mind that when momma is happy, everyone is happy. So, stop dogging our holsters. We’re working hard at making wise, independent and thoughtful decisions about our self-protection. I don’t see how you can argue that. We want to encourage more women to carry, right? Can’t we at least agree on that?

This Chick is Packing

A 2013 Pew Research Poll found 26 percent of women own a firearm—that’s an estimated 15 to 20 million women. As female firearm ownership grows, I think it is safe to assume so will conceal carry permits issued to women will also grow. Regardless of how she got there, how many holsters she went through or what you think is right for her—remember, under that hot mamma outfit, this chick is packing! And that’s what counts.

Okay. I am done. I will get off my soapbox now. I welcome your comments, even your ugly ones; however, this not an open invitation allowing you to call me a man-hater. There is nothing further from the truth. I have plenty of smart and funny men in my life that I enjoy a mutually respectful relationship. Most of them like to take me shooting. It might have something to do with watching me flinch when hot brass flies down my v-neck t-shirt. On the other hand, maybe it’s just because I make an equal and awesome shooting partner.

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Introduced to shooting at young age by her older brother, Suzanne Wiley took to the shooting sports and developed a deep love for it over the years. Today, she enjoys plinking with her S&W M&P 15-22, loves revolvers, the 1911, short-barreled AR-15s, and shooting full auto when she gets the chance. Suzanne specializes in writing for the female shooter, beginner shooter, and the modern-day prepper. Suzanne is a staff writer for Cheaper Than Dirt!

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Comments (29)

  • Sarah


    Right on! Fortunately, my boyfriend knows better than to give unsolicited advice about MY carry (his mama raised him right!). However, I’ve heard comments from instructors and other guys that really left me wondering how they managed to keep a spouse 😉


  • Annie


    I’m new to guns and carrying, but not to a/v equipment, and that Bose vs. Infinity quip was brilliant! You gained instant credibility with that remark, so I will be reading and following the rest of your posts now :).


  • Al


    I am passing this on to my 17 hr old Granddaughter.
    This is GOOD!
    77 yr young disabled Navy Vet


  • Melinda


    Thank you for your post. I do have one issue with mine. I bought a Kahr 40 cal and I can’t really afford to buy another gun. Anyway, I bought the Flashbang and I love it but the gun is a little heavy and my medium sized boobs aren’t big enough to truly conceal it in most cases. I would really like to find another holster that would work with most things I wear (because I like form fitting t-shirts too.) Do you have any suggestions for a gun that size on a small framed female? I would like to note that I bought a 40 cal because I work in law enforcement and it makes the ammo interchangeable if need be.


    • DAVID Hirsch


      take a look at the new alien gear shape shifter package, 4 holsters in one purchase, and has additional options for shoulder,ankle and off body carry. 99.00 starting price , and made for each gun specifically, so it carries well


  • Bill from Boomhower, Texas


    Lauren: Don’t give up. It’s not much better for us guys either, really. Not if you want something truly comfortable all day, without worry of dropping your gun, and not having it lashed to you so securly that you have to drop what’s in your hands to wrestle it into play with both hands if actually needed. Making conceal mandatory in certain states doesn’t help either. This puts a lot of demands on holster choice. Any holster can look good in the ad or in the store, but the application of said holster is where the gritty truth is realized.
    With all the new sub-compact guns and new carry laws, it’s been hard to find guns, ammo, and much of anything relative in the past year, but I believe things will catch up. I carry a Springfield XDs with a Crimson Trace Laserguard, and they haven’t yet offered anything suitable for that combination, that I’m aware of. Keep a positive attitude, and keep an eye out. Technology will surely catch up.


  • Lauren


    Man Girl!!! You totally hit it on this one!!!

    I have literally been laughed out of a store looking for holster’s (by guys that just don’t get it!)… and finally gave up on actually carrying!

    Thank you for your suggestions on women’s holster’s. The search is back on!


  • Joe Pucci


    I know it is late to comment, but I just came across your post. Your remark about men probably having holsters that really do not work really hit home. I probably have at least 7 for one handgun alone. I am not talking about cheap holsters either. Some are the top of the line in leather or plastic, everything from ankle holsters, inside the waist band (custom leather about a hundred bucks), pocket holsters and shoulder holsters. I even tried a lanyard under my shirt. I liked the hard plastic tension holster that came with my Sig until it fell out onto the floor one day. The only one I use is the leather, front pocket holster (by far the cheapest). I say if you like it or want to try it good luck. Anyone that hit the perfect rig on the first go was very lucky. Anyone that finds fault with a woman struggling to find the right holster is just trying to be funny or probably believes the “little woman” should stick to using a frying pan for a weapon. I can tell you from experience, the frying pan is not aerodynamic or I would probably not be writing this! Good luck and I enjoyed your article.


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