“I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.” – Marilyn Monroe
I generally avoid ranting on any of my blog posts. However, being an Internet blogger means I get to break the rules a little bit. Like being able to start a sentence with like and and. So, I’m going to go ahead and skate on thin ice here, break the rules and write about something that has been chapping my hide lately.
In the past few weeks, I have been reading some men’s opinions on the proper way for women to conceal a gun. Most of the comments—on my personal blog and on other’s Facebook pages—have read something like this:
“How dare you suggest a crappy holster. Stop trying to look cute and carry something functional.”
Now, I know a little something about women. Seeing as I’ve been one for nearly 40 years. And something a lot of us like to do is look and feel pretty—ain’t nothing wrong with that. Our figure fitting tops, black skinny jeans and 5-inch heels not only make us feel confident and hot, but I know you guys appreciate it, too. (You’re welcome, by the way.)
Yes, I know most of our favorite outfits do not lend well to conceal carry and many of us are not willing to sacrifice beauty over function. It is what it is. Get over it! Therefore, please sit in silence as we struggle to find the right holster that not only retains our favorite carry gun, but also is comfortable and works well with our favorite clothes. If we have problems finding just the right holster, have patience. I’m pretty sure you have a drawer full of holsters that do not work either.
Women-Specific Holsters are not Just Gimmicks
Fortunately, there are a myriad of holsters coming into the market meeting the specific needs of women who carry. You may think they look flimsy or unpractical, or that a girl won’t be able to access her firearm. Well… you think wrong. Plenty of women-specific holsters work perfectly. I know. I’ve tried them. Lisa Looper’s Flashbang bra holster allows you to draw your gun in under two seconds. Same with Donna Bickert’s Femme Fatale thigh holster. Both allow me to wear tight-fitting t-shirts and skirts that would make my grandma blush. Neither holster forced me to adapt my preferred way to carry or my outfit. Just because a holster looks ridiculous to you, does not mean it won’t work for us. Quite frankly, unless you grow breasts and hips, you will have no idea what it’s like for us to find a comfortable and functional way to carry.
DeSantis has introduced a new holster that secures a firearm in purses. Though off body carry isn’t ideal, it is the only way some women choose to carry. I’m not going to chastise them for that choice. You shouldn’t either.
When Momma is Happy Everyone is Happy
When you tell us what’s right for us, we start thinking about our fathers. Believe me, the last thing you want your girl to be thinking about while you are wrapping up your date at the shooting range is her daddy. Besides that, put yourself in our shoes. Imagine this: you take your lady home stereo shopping. As you are browsing through the Bose speakers, your lady pipes up, “You want Infinity speakers because they use a ceramic metal matrix diaphragm driver that is both light and rigid, resulting in a highly accurate reproduction of your audio source.”
A bit emasculating, isn’t it?
It can be quite discouraging when all you hear is, “don’t do that,” “stop wearing that” and “No! That’s wrong.” The last thing you should want to do is discourage women from carrying. So unless she asks for help and guidance, let her figure it out. She will eventually find something that works for her. Keep in mind that when momma is happy, everyone is happy. So, stop dogging our holsters. We’re working hard at making wise, independent and thoughtful decisions about our self-protection. I don’t see how you can argue that. We want to encourage more women to carry, right? Can’t we at least agree on that?
This Chick is Packing
A 2013 Pew Research Poll found 26 percent of women own a firearm—that’s an estimated 15 to 20 million women. As female firearm ownership grows, I think it is safe to assume so will conceal carry permits issued to women will also grow. Regardless of how she got there, how many holsters she went through or what you think is right for her—remember, under that hot mamma outfit, this chick is packing! And that’s what counts.
Okay. I am done. I will get off my soapbox now. I welcome your comments, even your ugly ones; however, this not an open invitation allowing you to call me a man-hater. There is nothing further from the truth. I have plenty of smart and funny men in my life that I enjoy a mutually respectful relationship. Most of them like to take me shooting. It might have something to do with watching me flinch when hot brass flies down my v-neck t-shirt. On the other hand, maybe it’s just because I make an equal and awesome shooting partner.
If you want to read more of my rants, you can find them here:
- Don’t Worry. You Don’t Have to be a Gun Nut to Shoot Guns
- It’s Okay to Be Nervous
- Pro Choice? Democrats say the Darnest Things
- Why I believe in Constitutional Carry
- Do Not Underestimate the Woman Who Shoots